Lifestyle

3 Failures I Learned From

October 3, 2016

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I recently started a new chapter of my life and it has been wonderful so far. I am excited about life because I am happy with my job and relationships. However, life is full of challenges and rollercoasters so I have been reflecting on my past failures. My personal failures have helped me grow, mature, adapt, appreciate, and learn. Here are three failures I have learned from:

Finances

Four years ago, I worked for an e-commerce startup. The company struggled with fundraising, ran out of money and couldn’t make payroll. I was in my early 20’s and this was unexpected. I relied on the paychecks and had not saved up for a rainy day. Luckily, the startup secured funding 5 weeks later and we all received our backpay. I learned that no matter how hard working and ambitious you are, there are always external factors that could impact your financial well-being so it’s important to save up! Thankfully, this lesson of financial planning and managing financial risks was one that I learned very young.

Career

I spent my last year of business school looking for a job. The job search was an extremely painful, eye opening, and humbling experience. I knew what industries, function, and companies I want to work for, but it was difficult getting offers. I learned a lot about myself and was surprised that I have so much perseverance. After graduation, I moved to San Francisco without a job but quickly received job interviews and offers. Being in the target city really helped since I was able to meet hiring managers in person and employers knew I would be able to start immediately. In the end I accepted an offer with a great company, and I now know I had to go through all the painful rejections to finally get to this point. My advice to job seekers is to know what you want, set realistic goals and targets (your experience should match the job requirements), and to not give up! The easier route is to accept an offer with a company you’re not excited about or to stay at a job where you’re not growing/advancing, but you’ll just be unhappy and unsatisfied.

Relationships

I’ve had many failed relationships over the years, whether it’s just letting the relationship grow distant over time or falling out over disputes.  Maintaining strong relationships with family and friends is the hardest, but also the most important. I still struggle with this every day, but I have learned that if someone is important, then treasure this person and never walk away.